Sitting, year after year with hundreds and hundreds of couples, I experience themes in human behavior that teach me a lot about the differences between people who are able to create beautiful love relationships, and those who struggle, believing that they’re just not “finding the right person,” or that true love is not in the stars for them. My findings are reflected in research on relationships, and like so much that science supports, truth can feel counterintuitive, certainly counter to what feels “natural and normal.”