There is value in launching complaints in a relationship, but it's how we approach and how we respond that is most important!
1) When we bring up the small things, we strengthen the emotional muscles that are necessary for bringing things to our partners when the stakes are higher.
2) When we practice sharing openly and skillfully, we inhibit building resentment, as we see our emotions as valid and gently invite our partners to do the same.
3) We strengthen trust when this becomes an intentional practice—We let our partners know that our relationship is worth the risk of having difficult conversations, and we ask our partners to do the same.
4) An honest and vulnerable complaint--without judgment and delivered effectively, can be an invitation to deepen intimacy and build the relationship we desire.
The Value of Launching Complaints